tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-58383590095553022982023-10-16T21:40:25.875+05:30My Musings on Life and Other ThingsCourage Doesn't always roar. Sometimes it is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying,"I will try again tomorrow".
Courage is the discovery that you may not win and still trying when you know you can lose.Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.comBlogger137125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-69471593152797220612022-11-18T17:21:00.004+05:302022-12-09T16:12:12.240+05:30Is Life in Control?<p> For the past few years, I feel life is not in my control. I feel as if somebody is playing games with me. I meet people who are very nice to me initially and suddenly change, without any specific reason. They suddenly stop talking to me as if somebody has told them something about me behind my back. </p><p>I keep losing good friends and positions, even though neither is my choice. I give my best shot and still I feel as if life is slipping from my hands. How to get back in control, I don't know. How to cut off negative people. How to be in charge of my choices in life, I don't know.</p><p>I know I am just ranting about my doubts and fears but how to ensure that things work out for me. Recently, I was very happy, things were working out for me but suddenly again something bad happened. I wonder if my fear is baseless or if something is actually working against me. Though I never feel lonely and am happy in life, these failures gnaw at my heart and make me doubt my capability. </p><p>I have deep knowledge, good communication skills and good convincing skills. I succeed and suddenly things fall apart. Are my techniques wrong? Do I rub people the wrong way? Just don't have answers to my doubts and fears. I wish somebody would help me. </p>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-55175160965614424082022-07-29T18:47:00.000+05:302022-07-29T18:47:38.943+05:30Should learning cater to the modern learner?<p> Let us begin by defining the modern adult learner. 18 plus, tech-savvy and used to different mediums of learning. The modern learners have faced lockdown or probably completed their education during the lockdown, where they had to increasingly study using online mediums like virtual classrooms, or online sessions through Zoom, MS Teams, Google Meet etc. What kind of training would they prefer? Instructor-led classroom sessions, Virtual instructor-led training or e-learning? The answer to that would definitely be the latter two. One reason for this simply could be the easy accessibility of the latter two. Secondly the ability to go through the recordings of the sessions multiple times to make the learning self-paced.</p><p>In the days of yore learning was classroom-based and much emphasis was laid on memorization. While, when it comes to facts there is no denying the fact that memorization is still almost always the only way out. But what about skill development or process-related learning, where the learner may need to develop hands-on practice, what would be a better method? It could be classroom training where learners learn to practice or maybe a simulation where the learners view and re-view the steps involved. </p><p>As an instructional designer with considerable experience in the field, I feel that the learning should be bespoke. It should be designed keeping the demographics of the learner in mind. It should ensure that whatever content is being imparted through the training is grasped by the learner and absorbed and imbibed. To ensure these, it should use mediums of imparting that allow the learner to learn at their own pace which is not always possible in a traditional classroom or an instructor-led methodology. It is more possible with a recording or a video or an e-learning module. </p><p>So when making an instructional design plan, keep the learner in mind and not necessarily the budget of the client. While it is easy to say, educate the client about the validity of the method proposed by you, which is a herculean task but trying to convince is the only alternative to ensuring that your learning is effective and effective learning is the only learning that delivers results. </p>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-24342079607514327392022-07-29T17:42:00.001+05:302022-07-29T22:08:51.601+05:30How to deal with negative people<p> In everyday work, we all come across people who are negative, cunning and manipulative. Many of them display their negativity upfront and some are sweet as sugar on the face and strike behind your back. While you can deal very well with the first kind of negativity by retorting back or remaining calm while the verbal assault is on, it is very difficult to deal with the second kind of negativity. When somebody speaks negatively behind your back, you are unaware of what the other person is saying. You take their sweet as sugar front to be true and trust them and all the while they are backstabbing you. </p><p>Recently, I came across such an experience and when I faced negative feedback from my boss, I realized what this friend of mine was doing. I was trying to figure out a way of dealing with this and trying to understand why I was constantly feeling nervous and stressed. Why were negative thoughts crowding my mind?</p><p>Then on discussing it with a colleague I realized that my friend was the cause of all this. I also asked my colleague how to deal with the situation. He advised that I should also maintain a sweet as sugar façade and while I can't backstab, I can always remain alert as to how she would behave in future and stop me from trusting her. I accepted his advice as he had met the same treatment from her and decided to be cautious more than anything else. </p><p>How do you deal with such a person? Do you expose them if you are able to or do you remain cautious or speak upfront and tell them you know their tactics and are not going to become a victim? </p>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-59998863687197383502022-03-31T12:52:00.003+05:302022-03-31T12:52:44.410+05:30Are anxiety and worrying normal?<p> When you are going through a phase where you are waiting for an outcome of some action you have taken, are anxiety and worrying normal? Are they part and parcel of this phase?</p><p>For instance, if you have given an interview and are waiting for the outcome, is constantly checking the mobile phone or your email account acceptable? Or alternatively, you should adopt a stoic's attitude and keep a calm mind and leave the outcome to God? Do your best and leave unto God the rest. Easier said than done.</p><p>Typically we are anxious and worried, but the right attitude to adopt is the stoic's attitude and not be flustered by ups and downs. This ensures good health. A calm mind gives you worry-free sleep and happiness and whatever the outcome of your action you take it in your stride.</p><p>So though you may feel worried and anxious, try to keep a calm mind and leave the outcome to God. That is the ideal attitude to adopt. </p>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-41707844134740172322022-03-17T23:17:00.002+05:302022-03-17T23:17:38.195+05:30The Ups and Downs of Life<p> Life is so quirky, sometimes it takes an uphill swing and sometimes a downhill swing. While we are enjoying the joys of the uphill swing, we completely forget what will happen when life will take a downward swing. But, when the downward swing actually hits us we realize that it is time to introspect. Think about all the little mistakes we made that caused the downfall. </p><p>How important are both the phases of life and should we take these little moments seriously? Uphill swing or downward swing, how does it matter? They are but moments of life and life should not be taken too seriously as nobody is going to get out of it alive.</p><p>So are these introspections a waste of time? Or they are a way of trying to give some meaning to life while we are sojourning it. I think this should be it. Give meaning to life while we are going through it. It makes it more joyful, satisfying. </p><p>For the satisfaction of the inner self, we must introspect, try to correct our little mistakes, try to do better, make sure we don't repeat our mistakes and thus live a more satisfying and fruitful life. Life is short and though we won't be remembered eternally after we are gone while we are here we should try to give greater meaning to life. </p><p>So introspect everytime you are on a downhill swing and try to learn from your mistakes. </p>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-69837581666850725982021-03-19T18:29:00.001+05:302021-03-19T18:29:07.862+05:30Should the Mind be Dynamic or in a State of Status QuoThis is a question that often comes to mind. People say that our approach to life should be dynamic but what about our core values should they also change with changing times or remain time tested and rooted in our very existence. Our values are part of our very being, our existence. They are something that we acquired since our childhood and they shaped our personalities. So, should these values also be dynamic or should they remain status quo? <div>I have gone through many turmoils in my life and my mindset has changed from an angry, emotional person to a calm person who is at peace with life and the people around me. With such a chequered life should I retain my values? I find myself often pondering over this. My mind is both a combination of static and dynamism as I try to retain the values inculcated in me since childhood and try to have a dynamic approach to life. Not being rigid about anything in life, having a flexible approach to people and situations are important aspects of my constantly developing personality. </div><div>I have met all sorts of people in my life, some have left a sour memory in my interaction with them and some have left me with joie de vivre for life and my dreams and ambitions about life. </div><div>I would like to narrate my experience with a former colleague, he had a negative attitude even with the most positive people around him. I had shown him the new version of the hare and tortoise story, where the hare and tortoise work as friends and help each other with their core skills, I said if we have this approach in office work each one of us will benefit. He told me this is good only in a story in office work we have to pull each other down. I was aghast and realized that he would have this approach all his life. He still communicates with me but is not happy with my progress in life. Thus I who had an emotional connect with this friend realized that all he wanted to do was pull me down.</div><div>There have been other friends and colleagues who if not being supportive have not tried to pull me down. Thus life has been a mixed bag in terms of the people I have met and has made me keep a dynamic approach towards the people I have met and a static approach towards my core values. </div>Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-55750613330001594812019-12-16T23:49:00.001+05:302022-11-21T16:58:09.840+05:30Breaking News: A Woman is ViolatedOne Nirbhaya makes breaking news<br />
One Doctor Reddy rouses the nation's conscience<br />
People march in indignation<br />
Light candles to commemorate the violated<br />
But what about the thousand's of women who are violated every day?<br />
Violated by uncles, cousins, husbands, boyfriends<br />
Sex is forced upon them<br />
They experience sex without any pleasure<br />
It is a painful experience<br />
Does anybody cry for them?<br />
Do we light candles for these women who are molested in the form of she wanted it?<br />
Is it a crime to desire gratification?<br />
Is it not important for the partner to fulfil the needs of his partner?<br />
So which violation is more shameful?<br />
The one Nirbhaya experienced?<br />
The one a seven-year-old girl experienced when an uncle molested her?<br />
The one a thirteen-year-old experienced when an older friend forcibly kissed her?<br />
Or the one a twenty-three-year-old woman experienced when her boyfriend forcibly kissed her?<br />
Isn't each violation breaking news?<br />
What about a much older man propositioning a subordinate that he wants to meet her outside office?<br />
Where do we draw the line?<br />
As a nation, we need to awaken to the violation of women going on all around us<br />
We need to give a sympathetic ear to a girl who complains she has been violated<br />
And as for the seven-year-old girl, we need to make her aware of uncles who touch everywhere<br />
For us Indians who have been labelled a nation of rapists<br />
We need to become aware and raise our boys to be sensitive to girls<br />
Otherwise, there will be one Nirbhaya on the roads and millions behind closed doors.<br />
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<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-25508658372985039882019-12-06T10:10:00.003+05:302022-11-21T16:56:34.964+05:30The Path of the WinnerOnce you are finished<br />
There is no looking back<br />
The only way out is forward<br />
There is no dithering from here<br />
Just move on...<br />
The heart or mind may want to linger on at the finishing line<br />
May want to look back<br />
May want to think about moments past<br />
But lingering will only delay the bright future that is yet to come.<br />
The law of attraction guides you to move towards a worthwhile goal.<br />
Make goals and think about moving on<br />
The past moments are only dreams of the night past<br />
They have no place in your future<br />
So, do not dither...<br />
Push back any stray hair of memories that may linger on the face...<br />
They will only disturb you from the positive path<br />
Disturb your line of vision<br />
Keep it straight and clear<br />
Keep your eyes on the goal<br />
And like Arjuna you will hit the fish's eye with your arrow.<br />
Set sight on your goal<br />
Remove any hindrances that may be there<br />
Thinking positive all the time is a constant process<br />
It is a Herculean task<br />
It can be achieved with determination and dedication<br />
Affirm your goals<br />
Say your positive affirmations<br />
And you are half way there<br />
The other half is taking action<br />
Once you are filled with positive emotion<br />
You are more than eager to set on the path of winning.<br />
Fill your heart, mind and body with the positive affirmations that you are saying to yourself<br />
And you are on the path of the winner<br />
Winning is only a moment<br />
The journey is crucial<br />
Make your journey enjoyable<br />
Visualize your future<br />
The abundance, the joie de vivre, the frolic<br />
The path of the winner is yours for the taking<br />
Just set your mind on it.<br />
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<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-61673849037421025582019-11-26T09:09:00.000+05:302019-11-26T09:11:12.744+05:30My first kissMy first kiss was like a rod pushed inside my mouth<br />
I was filled with revulsion<br />
All that saliva pouring into my mouth<br />
He told me<br />
Move your tongue at least<br />
I struggled<br />
He said you don't know how to kiss.<br />
Then asked me whether I liked the kiss.<br />
I didn't know what to say<br />
To hate him or pity him<br />
I wondered whether kissing was a skill or an expression of love.<br />
I have been kissed many times but that memory of the first kiss that filled me with revulsion<br />
Stays with me...<br />
Each time I ask do I know how to kiss?Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-51061824659705775132019-11-20T16:55:00.003+05:302019-11-20T16:55:52.398+05:30My attitude towards lifeI have faced plenty of struggles in my life. On the personal front as well as the career front. Life has constantly thrown challenges at me and I have faced them sometimes as a fighter and at other times not so strongly. I feel life is a learning lesson and it teaches you something at all times. Through my failures and successes, I have also learnt some lessons.<br />
Firstly, face every day with a smile. Every day is new, every moment is afresh and we don't know when an opportunity may be knocking at our door.<br />
Winners never quit. This is an often repeated quote, but very true in life. We never know that with the next push we might win.<br />
Every cloud has a silver lining. This is again a frequently repeated quote but in my most dark moments of life, I realized that I was a fighter in life and I could face every turmoil in my life with this too shall pass attitude.<br />
Don't know how the world sees me but I see myself as a fighter. Someone who faces every challenge with a can-do it attitude. <br />
Life has thrown bouquets as well as brickbats at me and I have faced every challenge with a positive attitude. People have not supported me in my struggles and have actually enjoyed seeing me fail but my guardian angel has always protected me. I always find that one friend who stands by me through thick and thin. While there are plenty of people who want me to learn a lesson and see me fail. There are also those who secretly pray for me and wish me well. I may not always know my well-wishers and sometimes trust the wrong person as I tend to judge people at face value (a weakness, I know), but my well-wishers have seen me through thick and thin.<br />
Thus my attitude in life always stays positive and I believe that for me, life always ends with a smile just like the Shepheard in The Alchemist, I find my treasure.Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-54375966695105714642019-11-16T19:29:00.000+05:302019-11-16T19:29:36.477+05:30Life at its bestWhen is life at its best?<br />
Is it a journey or a conquest?<br />
A road to be travelled on or a battle to be won?<br />
Is it when you are winning or when you are struggling and about to win?<br />
Which one is the best moment?<br />
The anticipation of a triumph or the moment of triumph?<br />
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Is life at its best in happy moments?<br />
Or when you are totally immersed in something?<br />
Is it when you are passionately involved in something?<br />
Or is it the realization that you might win?<br />
Can we break down the best moments of life?<br />
And pinpoint yes, this is life at its best?<br />
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Is life not at its best at all times?<br />
In joyous moments.<br />
In times of struggle<br />
In times of strife<br />
Every moment of life is worthwhile<br />
Ask those who have been denied life<br />
What its true worth is?<br />
So, live every moment as if it was your last<br />
And celebrate this splendour that is life.<br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-91572920349650907292019-11-15T23:49:00.000+05:302019-11-15T23:49:17.601+05:30TransitionCurrently, I am going through a phase of transition. I have to move from familiar surroundings and move to unsure, untried terra firma. I wonder whether I should write a poem about my current state-of-mind or just write a post. I settled for the latter. The feelings that I am undergoing cannot be described in a word or sentence. Is it turmoil or my why me attitude? I wonder at the unfairness of my situation. Why do I have to undergo an upheaval every time? Don't I deserve to settle down?<br />
I wonder if complacency has undertaken me. Have I stopped challenging myself? Do I deserve better?<br />
All these thoughts trouble my mind but I realize that life goes on and change is the only constant in life. May be my writing skills need to be put to a test. I need to explore my horizons. The new role that I will be assuming will challenge me. I may succeed or not. But, I will not give up without trying.<br />
The present world is the world of Google and Wikipedia. Where all information is available by typing in a search word. I too can learn and know. I too can face challenges. I will not be complacent and rest with my knowledge gained at school and college. I will learn new things and keep abreast with the changing times. I will adopt a new role, don a new mantle and move on to new paths.<br />
My life has been full of challenges and a new challenge does not deter me. I accept it and decide to march on with all my strength. The familiar lines of the American Poet Robert Frost ring in my ears.<br />
"And miles to go before I sleep..."Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-5785293226811828062019-11-14T19:07:00.000+05:302019-11-14T19:07:39.117+05:30How to write a love letter<br />
Recently I received a strange request on Linked in, Anil Sharma (name
changed), a call centre employee wanted me to write a love letter for him to
his girlfriend. He, of course, was discouraged by the high rate I quoted, so I
decided to devote a post to all those who want to express their feelings
through the written medium. I mean you can always say it with a song or an
SMS. You could also make use of greeting cards, but of course, if you like things
the old fashioned way, here goes:<br />
I do like long letters and e-mails, so I would suggest you write a long one if
you plan a letter, a short one is a note, not necessarily a letter.<o:p></o:p><br />
The first thing to do is, to check the mentality and likes and dislikes of
your prospective partner.<o:p></o:p><br />
The age group-- yours and hers are very important, if you are teenagers,
keep things sweet. Some girls like letters written in blood (personally, I feel
it has better uses and ink is just great :)) well I’m not too sure whether you
should comply with such tastes, but yes, try and keep things simple. If she
likes things straight, avoid games. If she is a bit mature and likes a bit of
style, please do not rush in, just write a friendly feeler, it should introduce
the idea, that you have something other than plain friendship in mind. See how
she takes it, does she like it, or she is avoiding certain topics, while just
maintaining the friendship, if she is just politely replying, then stop, she
may not be interested.<o:p></o:p><br />
On the other hand, if she returns your attempts at mild flirtation with some
hints and suggestions, start building the friendship, and of course when you
finally, confess your love, induce some humour into it, so she doesn’t feel
overwhelmed and feels pressurized into replying.<o:p></o:p><br />
Nothing is more distasteful than a friendship that has gone sour, just
because you couldn’t control your feelings.<o:p></o:p><br />
The final word on this one—Good Luck!:)<o:p></o:p><br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-75073506817821716102019-08-30T08:20:00.002+05:302019-08-30T08:20:54.797+05:30Broken heartWhen the heart is broken<br />
What are you left with?<br />
A cauldron of emotions<br />
Memories that ever so softly<br />
Keep touching you<br />
You wish to break away from the past<br />
And start afresh, anew<br />
but that is the hardest part<br />
Memories of tender moments<br />
keep brushing by you<br />
leaving you aching with longing.<br />
Emotions torment you<br />
You are unable to find a respite<br />
Mind roars with thoughts<br />
They keep lashing against each other<br />
like waves crashing against the wall<br />
to make borders and control the turbulent ocean<br />
Your whole body seems to have become turbulence itself<br />
Mind, heart, body everything rings with raging emotions<br />
You look for escape<br />
Peace from this smoldering volcano<br />
But alas! there is no peace to be had<br />
I think only time will tell<br />
Whether you can move on or<br />
Remain rooted to a spot<br />
Time is the best healer<br />
Only time will tellLaya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-37501191770237486322019-08-29T21:41:00.000+05:302019-08-29T21:41:28.489+05:30A typical dayAnother day has gone by,<br />
Am I satisfied with the outcome of the day?<br />
Was it a typical day?<br />
Filled with laughter and good cheer<br />
Toil and wearing activities<br />
Reaching out to souls far and wide<br />
What is the outcome?<br />
A weary brow!<br />
A warm glow of self-satisfaction<br />
A brow furrowed with wavering thoughts<br />
When I look back on the day that has just gone by<br />
I try to look for similarities with other such days<br />
Are all days alike?<br />
Do I look for too much?<br />
After all, each day cannot stand out<br />
Sometimes I wonder at the thoughts flying past the mind<br />
Do they make sense?<br />
Does each day make sense, in the whirl of life<br />
Should we make each day memorable as life is but days<br />
And days are but moments?<br />
Life, day, moments!<br />
Meaning, emotions, love!<br />
I think life is a resplendent day<br />
Filled with meaning, emotions, love<br />
And each day in the path of life adds to the rich experience that is life. <br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-74744636650002017382019-08-23T18:38:00.000+05:302019-12-06T18:41:52.382+05:30Treading the roads of lifeWhile treading the roads of life,<br />
What is the throwback...<br />
Happy, joyous, enticing experiences<br />
Filled with joie de vivre<br />
Life takes its own course<br />
When I look back on my life<br />
I feel a sense of satisfaction<br />
Of moments lived to fulfilment<br />
Of experiences had in all its ecstasies<br />
Of sad moments, extreme rage, deep passion,<br />
Anger, tears, laughter, mirth, all emotions rolled into one<br />
Birthdays come and go and I look back on the past<br />
Unrequited love, sharp pain, seething rage and calm moments.<br />
Just like the climax of high passion, deep emotion and calmness at the end.<br />
Will life also end like this?<br />
All emotions felt and the high tide of life experienced<br />
With satisfaction and a sense of peace and belonging as the culmination of life<br />
Will my road of life take unforeseen turns?<br />
Or will I tread a well-trodden and predictable path?<br />
My mind is filled with all these emotions as one more year reaches its completion<br />
Still, I wonder, will life hold sudden surprises?<br />
Or have I had my fill?<br />
The mind will not rest as it keeps pondering on what the future holds.<br />
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<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-77189055487472478152019-08-21T22:35:00.000+05:302019-12-12T14:04:59.659+05:30Book ReadingOf late I have picked up my old hobby of reading books. I have again become a voracious reader. Reading books of all genres. Recently, I read Celestial Bodies by Jokha Alharthi, the Booker prize winner for this year. It is the story of three sisters, their lives, parents, children, husbands and the response of each one to life and its circumstances.<br />
A deep insight into life in Oman in the twentieth and the twenty-first century, the book describes a culture that is far different from my own. Yet, I am able to identify with the characters.<br />
Another interesting book that I read this year was My sister the serial killer. The story of two sisters in modern-day Nigeria, the book describes the story of two sisters who share a relationship with mixed feelings. While they support one another, there is a critical note when the older sister describes her younger sister. The younger sister has a strange streak in her character; she has killed all her ex-boyfriends. The book is definitely worth a read.<br />
I have read thirteen books in all this year till the month of August 2019. They range from YA fiction to classic detective tale to shoot the president of France in the 1960s.<br />
I can safely say that though myriad impressions have fashioned my personality, reading of books has given expression to my thoughts. My ability to vocalize my inner self is an outcome of the books that I have read in my life.<br />
I had taken a challenge on Goodreads to finish twelve books by the end of 2019. I have exceeded my challenge and completed thirteen books already. I am looking forward to reading many more books and hope to finish twenty by the end of this year.<br />
Please suggest any interesting books that you have read that you want me to read. Please leave comments and name your suggestions.<br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-54924841575899019722018-10-21T00:28:00.000+05:302018-10-21T00:28:01.192+05:30Love and TendernessWhat do I look for in life?<br />
Tender talks, tender moments, warm embraces, friendly talks<br />
Why do these simple things elude me?<br />
Are they too much to ask?<br />
Am I expecting too much?<br />
Please tell me if I expect the impossible<br />
I think I expect normal things from life<br />
A little caring and sharing<br />
Is it too much to give?<br />
Somebody, please speak up<br />
Please tell me why can't I have engaging conversations with friends<br />
And be treated as a normal person<br />
The inner loneliness inside me eats me up<br />
I look for warmth, love, friendship, support<br />
These things don't cost a thing<br />
They are free like all good things in life<br />
Yet they elude me<br />
Goals are there, pathways are there but if I don't get support<br />
I don't get love, how do I move on?<br />
Am I begging?<br />
No, I think not<br />
Just pouring my heart out in a white sheet of paper.<br />
All I seek is acceptance as a normal individual<br />
Someone who wants a man to love me for what I am<br />
And not for my body parts<br />
Offer me tenderness, love, affection and not erotica<br />
Tell me if I am seeking the ethereal<br />
Am I asking too much?<br />
Love me as a friend, lover and give me love and affection.Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-50288660514851314122018-09-09T10:15:00.001+05:302018-09-09T10:15:44.611+05:30Do emotions make our being?<div class="MsoNormal">
I write.<o:p></o:p></div>
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But what do I write?<o:p></o:p></div>
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I write about the feelings of the heart.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The unrest assailing my mind.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The pain inside my bosom.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Wherefrom you ask stem these emotions?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Our body is made of flesh and blood.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Chemicals are what make our system tick.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Yet I talk of pain, hurt, unrequited love.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Wherefrom do these spout?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Is it an outcome of the inherent lust in our bodies?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Lust to find gratification—physical or emotional.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Or are these emotions real?<o:p></o:p></div>
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We feel deep pain in the heart.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Our bosom is submerged with emotion.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Wherefrom stem this tide?<o:p></o:p></div>
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Why are these emotions so intangible?<o:p></o:p></div>
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And yet they are responsible for making life a heaven or hell.<o:p></o:p></div>
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The mystery of life lies in these emotions<o:p></o:p></div>
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When we breathe it is only an action. <o:p></o:p></div>
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But the feelings we go through.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Give a new dimension to the action.<o:p></o:p></div>
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Death is but a moment but the emotions associated with death are the crux.<o:p></o:p></div>
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They are responsible for the emotional upheaval that we feel.<o:p></o:p></div>
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What is the reality?<o:p></o:p></div>
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These emotions that give meaning to life <o:p></o:p></div>
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Or the tangible flesh and blood that is our lifeline<o:p></o:p></div>
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I wish this mystery could be unravelled. <o:p></o:p></div>
Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-43984751105678856022018-08-19T18:57:00.000+05:302018-08-19T18:57:04.831+05:30InspirationYou inspire me to live life to its fullest<br />
You fill me with hope and feel good emotion<br />
I who have been denied happiness and fulfilment in life<br />
See it in your eyes, open arms and warm kisses<br />
Fill me with energy and happiness<br />
Which only someone like you can bestow<br />
You have the wherewithal to inspire<br />
Me to rise to great heights<br />
You have it in you to drive people with your lovely smile<br />
Do you realize the potential of your smile?<br />
It can make people do unthought of deeds<br />
It inspires to rise and perspire so that your goal is met.<br />
Oh! Dear realize your potential and use it suitably<br />
So that you can make the Phoenix in me rise from ashes<br />
And fulfil my purpose in life.<br />
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<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-67012106085720308342018-08-19T17:29:00.001+05:302018-08-19T17:29:38.401+05:30I am not beatenI struggle and struggle<br />
Yet no results,<br />
Still, I am not beaten<br />
My endurance can be summarized thus<br />
I am moving clouds today<br />
Tomorrow I will try the mountains.<br />
This struggle wears me out<br />
But I am not beaten<br />
I firmly believe that though you know you can lose<br />
But still trying<br />
This struggle will bring out the shine in me and I will glow like a diamond<br />
I believe in the old Hindi adage<br />
That as the rope when it continuously moves over the stone leaves a mark even on stone<br />
My efforts too shall bear fruit.<br />
With this struggle, I often feel disheartened<br />
But I do not give up<br />
There are so many examples in front of me<br />
Of people who turned the tide in their favour<br />
Just as they were about to give up<br />
I come across obstacles, hindrances<br />
Yet I am not beaten<br />
My back is sore with the lashes that life's struggle has hit me with<br />
But I am not beaten.<br />
I know I shall rise from the ashes like the Phoenix<br />
and shine again<br />
Nothing beats me<br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-56122857329471336562018-08-13T18:18:00.001+05:302018-08-13T18:18:52.266+05:30Goal of lifeLife is an elimination process<br />
It is a selection of the most suitable for the individual.<br />
You have to remove the unnecessary from the grain<br />
To get the crux of anything.<br />
You might ask me is it a selection or elimination?<br />
Both I would say<br />
Eliminate the unnecessary and select the best.<br />
This way you will achieve your objectives<br />
Achieving your objectives is important<br />
If you want to attain your goal.<br />
Now the dilemma is what is the goal of life?<br />
I would say a life lived well<br />
For each individual, this could hold a different meaning,<br />
For some, it would mean being successful in life<br />
Fulfilling your aspirations<br />
For others, it could be devoting yourself to the cause of humanity.<br />
For still others, it could mean immersing yourself in your family.<br />
Whatever your goals are<br />
Do the elimination carefully<br />
And select the best for yourself.Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-70923491986313455942018-08-09T20:38:00.000+05:302018-08-09T20:38:06.478+05:30At the threshold of a new lifeI am at the threshold of new experiences,<br />
A new life,<br />
Maybe it will be beautiful and fulfilling.<br />
Maybe it will take me to new heights of gratification<br />
A new muse to ponder on<br />
New thoughts, new meanings<br />
The thoughts of a bright future enthralls me<br />
I feel a new high in life<br />
But, hold on<br />
Is so much excitement warranted?<br />
Maybe the new experience will give me mixed feelings.<br />
Like most things in life<br />
I have to take the new moments with a pinch of salt<br />
Be prepared for a mix of positives and negatives.<br />
Life is a mix of beautiful and not so beautiful<br />
They peacefully co-exist.<br />
Within me, if I look inside<br />
The good and bad lie side by side<br />
Does this mean I can't be happy, excited?<br />
Surely not, I can be happy, exhilarated<br />
Excited and dance with joy.<br />
Not allow any foreboding thoughts to spoil my happiness<br />
I also can walk hand-in-hand with happiness.<br />
It is also something I can partake in my life<br />
Yes, indeed I too deserve happiness.<br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-51491030699539544822018-08-08T22:57:00.000+05:302018-08-08T22:57:30.881+05:30Revelation of the inner selfI lean against the pole to find a support<br />
Is it my weaker self?<br />
looking for something to depend on<br />
Or my body demanding a respite from long hours of standing<br />
Why is my body looking for support<br />
Do I want to merge into another?<br />
Is the merging a completion in itself?<br />
Or it leads to several other desires?<br />
Is the merging an outcome of the inner longing to find support<br />
Or is it just a short resting point?<br />
Where from we move on the weary journey of life?<br />
Did I say weary, but life isn't weary in itself,<br />
The act of living may sometimes wear us out.<br />
I wonder as these thoughts crowd my mind<br />
Do I need support or do I seek completion?<br />
Do I seek respite or want to indulge in a dream?<br />
Let me not worry at the thoughts crowding my mind<br />
One day there will definitely be a revelation.<br />
I am sure my seeking heart shall find its answers.<br />
<br />Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-5838359009555302298.post-32171582241288103652018-08-03T16:14:00.000+05:302018-08-03T16:14:25.139+05:30Beautiful smileYour mesmerizing smile<br />
warms me from within<br />
It is soft as it spreads all across your face<br />
And makes your face glow with warmth<br />
It has far-reaching effects<br />
It directly reaches my heart<br />
My heart that is so palpable<br />
It thuds from the glow of your smile<br />
I dream about you with open eyes<br />
And shiver with anticipation as your lips touch mine<br />
The warm glow across your lips and face is transferred on to mine<br />
as you touch my lips with your lips.<br />
I feel a warmth spread all over my body<br />
Your mesmerizing smile has become mine.Laya Bajpaihttp://www.blogger.com/profile/01726032746876392518noreply@blogger.com0